I’m Not in the Mood

Couples go through seasons of feeling too tired to be intimate.  Let’s face it: We are in a society where we are always rushing and have very little down time for ourselves.  Talking hours on the phone with a friend has now been condensed into a few seconds of texting.  We don’t have a lot… Read more »


How Sleeping Naked Can Save Your Marriage … And Why Talking Comes Last

A while ago the beloved and I got in a doozy of an argument.  Now, our arguments are not like four-alarm fires that cause everyone to run for the hills.  That type belonged in my childhood and first marriage.  Our conflicts are a bit more like an oceanic earthquake whose eruption is tempered by the… Read more »


5 Ways You May Be Slowly Destroying Your Marriage

These days, while I still have a clinical practice, I do even more clinical supervision (helping other clinicians to be better couples, sex and spiritual intimacy therapists).  The other day I was staffing a case with one of my supervisees that was all too familiar.  It was of a couple married 23 years with two… Read more »